What Community Can Do About TDV

What Community Can Do About TDV

If you suspect  that someone you know may be a survivor of Teen Dating Violence, DO:

  • Listen to what the student, family or friend is saying without interrupting.
  • Find out what the person would like to do about the relationship and support them regardless of their decision.
  • You may let them know that abuse usually gets worse over time. Let them know that you will be there for them if they ever need you.
  • Expect the person to be confused about their feelings and about what to do. Expect them to change their mind, maybe even a few times.
  • Watch your body language and respect the person’s right to privacy and personal space.
  • Help the person become informed of available resources, some of which are listed on this page.
  • Decide how you should proceed with informing any other persons, especially if you feel the person’s safety may be in danger.

Be careful… DO NOT

  • Judge the person for their choice.
  • Give advice – Instead talk to them about the choices they have and help them find persons able to help.
  • Ask unnecessary questions; the survivor may shut down if they feel like they are being pressed to share information that they aren’t ready to talk about.
  • Overreact.
  • Confront the person’s abusive partner about the abuse – confronting the abuser may put you in danger, and may put the survivor at increased risk.